I don’t know why i really get interested at the first time i thinking about this topic. Actually i haven’t get marry yet, but this topic is quite attractive for me, and i believe for any people with the same age with me. Well, i have done some researched about it and would like to give a brief explanation about matrimony in Catholic Perspective.
Based on this link, what is defined with matrimony is :
“Living Fellowship – Among a single Man and a single Woman – That is happened because personal agreement that is unbreakable – and have to be targetted to loving each other, and a family creation – And must be faithfull with one another and can not be separated except by the death.”
From this definition, It is obvious that Matrimony is not only a matrimony. But deeper of that, it has a special meaning for a human, especially a catholic to be fulfilled.
It’s not an issue nowadays that we can see a lot of artists or even an ordinary people are so easy to get married and after several years or even months, they can also easily divorced due to a problem or whatsoever. This is the thing that should be prevented in catholic’s matrimony.
To marry means that 1 man and 1 woman have to love each other, with all their hearts, without forcing, and especially, they have to commit with their matrimony itself. The baseline of matrimony is love. And 1 thing we have to take note is, that the love should be everlasting, since it’s indeed that love is the based of Matrimony. Once again, love is the based ground of Matrimony. 1 man and 1 woman have to maintain their love even they are getting older, and not physically attractive. And also Matrimony is sacred, which means that for 1 single life, matrimony can only be conducted once, and can not be separated except by death (refering back to the definition above). So it is true that 1 single man and 1 single woman have to love, again, have to love each other until the death come. From the definition above also we can see that another purpose of matrimony is, to build a family. This is written also in Genesis chapter 1 verse 28 :
“God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
God said this words during the creation of Human. So, matrimony is to build a family and a family is built on top of matrimony. So, by right it’s impossible to build a family without matrimony (this is 1 thing that the world has distorted the meaning of matrimony). If you build a family, you will have children. You have to educate them with all right things, so that they can grow in the right way also as well. Your children are gift as you already built a family, so you have to really really care with the children since its a grace from God.
From my brief explanation, we can there is a sequence for having a matrimony. To marry someone is not easy, because it has a value to marry someone, and it has a commitment. You might have to sacrifice a lot of things for your wedding. But to marry means you open a new life, a new life with someone that you really love and you are ready to be faithful with. And also, it have to happen only once in a lifetime. So, you have to be careful with your choice, you have to know him/her very well, and you really have to make sure that your choice is the one that God sent to you.
Well, this is my short opinion regarding matrimony. Any ideas and suggestion are highly welcome :).